Some people choose to remain single, some get married, and some are in a romantic relationship for a long time, but have no intention of walking down the aisle. In fact, according to the Pew Research Centeras of42 percent of U. And, also according to the stats, approximately six in ten adults younger than maarried, 61 percent, live without a spouse or partner versus 56 percent from 10 years prior.
Exactly — different women have different reasons for not wanting to font the knot.
However, I fully respect the idea of marriage for people who choose to honor it, but it just seems like a title and joke to me personally. I almost got married a few years ago, but the idea of being tied down really got to me.
Yes, I am engaged — I wanted to experience what it would feel like. I housesit and even wrote a book about it! As a result, I grew up witnessing multiple female role models either forfeit their dreams, stay in abusive relationships, or operate from a place of low self-worth due to these religious, cultural, and social constructs.
Because of this, marriage or the idea that my worth, purpose, or happiness should be tied to a man came to symbolize entrapment, restriction, and the loss of identity very early on in life. No thanks. I grew up as an only child, and have never really felt the need or desire for a partner. lookijg
For context, I met him while I was a freshman in college he lived in another city, and we were long-distance for about four years. He was my first and only serious boyfriend — we have no children, we are not religious, and we do not want children. Purchasing a house together this year has felt like our version of marriage or a wedding.
In ways, it feels like a bigger deal and more of a milestone than getting married ever could. In addition to being incredibly dated, the entire tradition of marriage is steeped in sexism.
However, for me, the idea of marriage is the opposite of romanticand not gget tradition I choose to practice or promote. As my 20s turned into my 30s, I was less and less open to marriage. My money is mine and I decide what I do with it. Many times, I have put in 60 hours plus at my workplace.
Can my husband deal with someone who works as hard as I do? I also take my religious faith very seriously and attend services every Sunday, as well as endeavor to follow the tenets of my religion in everything that I do, not just on Sunday. What if it was something that was going on for months or years?
What if came about due to an affair? How do you resolve an issue like that? Yes, there are those who are very happy in their marriages, and I wish them all the happiness in the world.
More people are saying they never want to get married.
But marriage is more than just loving someone — it is sharing your time, money and most personal self. While single life can be lonely at times, any problems that I have are mine alone to deal with. It is just me.